Prosperity & Livelihood

PROSPERITY AND LIVELIHOOD

How Can I Accelerate my Healing Practice?

I own a “small” healing and massage practice in Florida and I am ready to take it to the next step. Meanwhile, to be able to pay bills, I have a “regular” part time job, which I am so ready to leave. It has great medical benefits and I need the extra income. I have my first speaking engagement at the end of this month on different ways to be spiritual and feel that speaking is part of my calling. It will be followed by more, I'm sure. I would like to speed up the growth of my healing practice and am not sure what to do next. I repeat all the affirmations and can't figure what's blocking it or me. Any suggestions?

Keep your consciousness in your healing practice as much as you can, even while you engage in other work or activities. Your practice will grow in proportion to your consciousness, so keep building your consciousness around it. As Abraham-Hicks teaches, manifestations are 99% complete before they show up in the outer world. In other words, you must become it before you can see it. Focus less on doing things out there to make it happen, and more on feeling that you are who you want to be. Repeating affirmations can be helpful, but deep inner knowing is the most helpful. Recognize your worthiness to do what you love, help people in the process, and be paid for you valuable services. As you step into your worth and recognition that your healing ministry is Spirit’s will, it will flow naturally and easily.

Does my Life Suck?

I am reading and contemplating whether my life “sucks” or not. I am tuned in from everything from MP3, the entire digital world, arts theater, as well as the latest in brain physiology and other medically related data. My mind is considerably active and curious with a penchant for research. I have multiple degrees. Recently, I read your article in “Bottom Line” excerpts which led me to write this note. The rub is I have little or no money and no one even on a part time basis will hire me since I am 70 years young. Over these years I raised lots of kids, took care of college, had great homes...but never took care of me. I have a mate who has monitored her money well provides me with a place to live. That's not entirely fair. I need more. So...with me its money. Lot's of old debt and no where to go. That's why I hit a wall and begin to wonder, Does my life suck?

Your life sucks only if you lack joy. It is possible to find joy right where you stand, regardless of your financial situation. You also have the power to create income, regardless of what other people believe, or you have been told about age, which is completely irrelevant to passion. If you want to earn money, you can. If you follow your joy (and you have a lot of it, considering the wonderful exploits you describe) you may find that the universe is happy to support you. In the meantime, focus on appreciating and celebrating the wonders of your life, including a mate that is willing to support you as you continue your youthful explorations Be open to all channels through with the universe may provide for you, and you may be surprised at what shows up.

If We Live in an Abundant Universe, How Can People Be in Need?

At this moment I am reading Handle with Prayer and I am having a hard time wrapping my Spirit around one part in the “Let It Be Easy” chapter. You have broken down the 23rd Psalm line by line and it is the line “I shall not want” that has me a bit stuck. How can we not expect someone who is truly starving and living on the streets such as those in impoverished countries to not want? As you wrote: “We are whole, abundant, and blessed beings abiding in a bountiful universe that provides for our every requirement. We lack for nothing...” If you could explain further with this in regard to situations like that I mentioned above I would be so grateful. This seems to be the only area that I keep struggling with in my understanding of life from a Soul level.

There are two elements to experiencing abundance: (1) The universe provides, and (2) You receive it. Jesus made the analogy of someone being offered a great feast, but if they do not sit down to enjoy it, they will starve. If, through conditioning, fear, or ignorance, someone is unaware of their identity as a child of God in a universe that provides infinite resources, and they do not step forward to claim it, they will live in lack, as if their good was not available. But it is. So the answer to poverty is not to give poor people money or goods (although that may help temporarily); the answer is to help them gain the consciousness of who they are, the universe they live in, and what they deserve. (My book Mr. Everit’ Secret goes into significant depth about this principle.)

You hit the nail on the head when you talk about living life at a soul level. There are many people in countries we would consider “impoverished” who are soaring at a soul level. And many folks with lots of wealth who are soul starving. So the game has less to do about what is happening on the outside, and a lot to do about what is happening on the inside. And yes, you can have material wealth and be spiritually happy ― it’s all about how much you remember spirit wherever you are.

Needs a Prosperity Miracle

I am an African, from The Democratic Republic of Congo. I am currently based in Cameroon and have been here in East Timor for the last two and a half months working as Training Director for a US Peace Corps program. There are fewer and ever shorter contracts of the kind in which I have specialized over the past 15 years. This year I had only one very short contract. After this contract I have no idea when the next one will come, if it comes at all. I compete for every contract. I have unsuccessfully applied for over a dozen of positions outside of my specialized job and have never even received a response. I started reading about prosperity and praying as hard as I could. I have seven dependants who depend on me for everything. I feel that nothing short of a miracle can change my living circumstances. I want prosperity for myself and my dependants. I am tired of barely surviving. What advice do you have for someone like me?

You are in the midst of a powerful prosperity lesson. Sometimes when you are in a position that nothing short of a miracle can solve, you are in the best possible position for a miracle. Anwar Sadat declared, “You’re not a realist unless you believe in miracles.”

A miracle is a shift in perception, from fear to trust; from a sense of lack to abundance; from perceiving the absence of God to recognizing the presence of God. Healing is less about shifting conditions, and more about shifting consciousness. Usually when your consciousness shifts, so do your conditions – but you have to work from inside out first.

Your prosperity can come through other doors besides the particular position you have had and have been praying for. These contracts are not the source of your good – they are one avenue among many, many possibilities which you may not even be aware of at the moment. Do not try to seek or force your abundance through this one channel only. Be open to other ways. Sometimes when one channel is closed, it forces you in a new direction that is far more valuable in the long run. So God may be setting you up for a positive life change in ways you do not see. Relaxing, breathing, and trusting here will help you see more possibilities. The better you can feel as you go along, the clearer you will see.

While you are obviously a good and devoted provider for your dependents, you have overlooked that they have a Provider even broader than you. Worrying about providing for them will not help. Your deep desire to take care of them has been heard by One who takes care of you.

You may be praying too hard. Prayer based on or seeking trust and peace is more powerful than fear-based prayer or prayer for a particular material answer. In your prayers seek to find the place inside you that recognizes abundance and well-being as your natural deserving state, and you will optimize your opportunities to manifest what you want, need, and deserve.

If you can find some sense of peace and well-being right now, right where you stand, you will begin to open doors that are nothing short of miracles

How Can I do What I Love when I Can't Afford to Quit What I'm Doing?

I have read your book Dare to Be Yourself and it helped me a great deal. I currently work in a college and I have a full time job plus I teach two jobs. I just seem to get further and further in debt because I don't have the exact credentials to be making big money. I have been an academic advisor for three years now, and I feel burnt out. Unfortunately I can't afford to give up my job right now. What kind of suggestions do you have for someone who feels on the edge of being burnt out but can't afford to quit and hasn't found another job?

Wealth and success are directly related to joy, enthusiasm, and creativity. I would say that you are getting deeper in debt not because you don’t have the credentials, but because you have drifted from your connection with your inner spirit. I am thinking of Michael Dell, who started building and selling computers out of his college dorm room. His company is now the most successful computer company in the world, and he never finished college! His passion outshined his credentials, and look what a success he is!

I suggest that you put some feelers out and start doing some more of the things you love right now. Keep your current job as long as you like or need, but simultaneously feed your soul with activities and pursuits that bring you creativity and lightness. What would you be doing if you had the time, energy, and financial support? Where would you go? Who would you hang out with? Begin to lean in these directions without undermining your current base of support, and you will be surprised at the insights you gain, the doors that open, and the feelings of well-being you experience.

Meanwhile, try to create more meaningful time and connections in the context of your current work. How can you make your life more worthwhile right where you are. What would you do more of? What would you do less of? What truth would you tell that you have been holding back on?

You may be amazed at the number and depth of opportunities offered to you right where you stand. As you milk them, you will naturally move to your next level of professional and spiritual evolution.

Is My Husband Draining my Prosperity?

I have used an inheritance to live on to stay at home with our children. My husband has always worked, saying his dream is to support us with his income, so that I could stop using mine. In 7 years this has yet to happen and I am near broke. Although I did not marry for money, I feel like I may divorce him because of our current financial situation. His new sales position is full commission and in almost a year we have lived off the equity of our home. I have never been a person to worry about money. It has always come easy to me and I have always felt abundant, but since being with him I have become fearful and angry and feel like he has led this family to the 'poor house.' I can't help but to feel betrayed and abandoned. His lack of emotional support has only made things worse. Almost every waking minute I think I want to leave him, then worry that would be the wrong choice, but I am afraid if I stay things will only get worse. All I want is clarity so I can move on.

Yes, clarity is exactly what will help you most. You are giving your husband far too much power over your prosperity and emotions. You have the ability to manifest abundance and live in an abundant universe no matter what he does or what his consciousness is. You are a sovereign creator. If you have always felt wealthy, tap into the place inside you that still knows how to feel wealthy. The more you focus on what your husband does or how he thinks about money, the more you distract yourself from your own prosperity consciousness. He cannot create in your experience unless you give him permission to do so.

This is a very healthy time for you, as you are being moved to dig deeper inside yourself for wisdom and strength. I don’t suggest you divorce him over this issue. It is more about you than about him. He may have his lessons, but you have yours. Emotional well-being is also a form or abundance; can you find emotional wellness inside you without needing it from him? Focus on developing your abundance consciousness, financially and emotionally, and he will cease to be your issue. You are in the midst of great riches at this moment; recognize them and your life will turn around.

How Can I Bounce Back after a Setback?

Me and a best friend of 20 something years wanted to start our own business back in '99 and I kept receiving so many “turn-downs” that it really drove my desire to the point that I even told one of the banks “I WILL own this business!” To make a long story short, we did manage to create and make it happen! The downfall was after 9/11, it really had a terrible financial ruin on our business (it was a retail gift shop, and gifts were now a luxury). We only made it until May of '02, just couldn't pay the rent anymore, our employees made more than we did. I've accepted the closing and much financial loss that came from it (still have a $25,000 debt!). However, I'm now in a position of working for $8 an hour, in a telemarketing position and I know if I could create a business like we did, there’s gotta be something better. I enjoy work, I'm not one of those people that wants to lie around the house all day. But I don't seem to be able to get myself up and at 'em!"

Congratulations – you are on the cutting edge of your spiritual growth. As I see it, if you could create a successful business once, you can create it again. The seeds of success are not sown by the economy, but by your mind and heart.

9/11 affected many businesses, including my own. Since many of my programs are travel-related, business in the aftermath of 9/11 was way down. I and my staff had to take some long deep breaths, find ways to subsidize our income, and get the big picture during a trying time. Eventually, like many, we came around the corner, and business since that year has been the most successful ever. So it was a temporary setback. Yet in the big picture the experience helped us build spiritual muscles that were stronger than the ones we had before.

Energy is related to joy and vision, and your lack of energy derives from your momentary discouragement. I assure that as you find ways to find encouragement, your energy and creativity will bounce back with vigor. If you weren’t afraid, what would you be doing differently? What creative ideas are bubbling within you? Who were you before you felt setback, and what would it take for you to bring that person forth. I assure you that person still lives in you – it is the real you – and with even a little welcome will show up and shine.
The only thing the record books do not show is the score at halftime. It’s time to get back on the field and play to win.

Affirmation to Remember All is Well

I am in the process of publishing my book. I sent it off to be formatted and it has not reached the proper people. I have copy written it and in panic that it may fall into the wrong hands and be copied. I have contacted the post office and let them know of what has happened and they are keeping watch over it. I need an affirmation or affirmations to affirm divine order and that all is well. I am nervous. This is my first book.

Your real book is your life. Stay committed to peace, and all aspects of the book will fall into place. You already know that divine order is in effect and all is well, since you state that in your question. Now you just need to stay with that knowingness so it becomes your prevalent energy. Affirm: "The same divine Source that gave my the book is watching over it and guiding it into the right hands and hearts for the right purpose. All is indeed well."

Wasting my Time Working for Someone who Doesn’t Value Me

I am a 40-young woman who has made a lot of wrong choices in life and I am determined to survive the many heartaches. I have tried many jobs and homemade businesses, and I am not happy about my life. I truly want to be a professional shopper and organizer for celebrities and business people. Where do I start? I don't have any experience but I know deep deep down in my soul that is the calling that Jehovah God has given me, and I know I am wasting my precious time working for someone else who doesn’t appreciate my time and value. I have been fired many times from my place of employment for reasons you will not even believe. How can I start my business as a personal professional shopper to the stars?

Begin by knowing that you have not truly wasted your time, since every experience, including the painful ones, have led you to where you stand now. You were fired for strange reasons probably because you did not want to be in those jobs. Now that you know what you want to do, you have a platform for success.

Reframe your identity from that of a survivor to that of a thriver. You are perched on your cutting edge. You know what you want, and you have passion and a spiritual connection ― all key elements for success.

Start your career by offering your shopping services to regular people, and then work your way up to the stars. They would value the experience you have gained working with others. See regular people as stars, and you open your own door to the stars.

An Affirmation for Moving and Starting All Over

I will be moving to my own perfect living space in 2 weeks. I will be starting all over again and in need of everything! Also since certain buses only run at certain times in order for me to get to work and other activities, I would need a car. In the past I had always paid cash for my cars and am somewhat shaky about a car note payment. Please give me affirmations for my perfect car and things I need for my new place as well as peace/harmony.

“Change is a natural, healthy, vibrant element of life, and Spirit supports me to live on my leading edge. I flow easily from one place to the next, and the universe joyfully empowers me with abundance everywhere I turn.”

I’d Rather Have my Good Sooner than Later

Since much of the progress that I wish to experience, and for which I have been treating myself, is not objectified, I must assume that below my conscious mind radar I have placed, or allowed, obstacles to my realization. As virtuous as patience may be I’d rather experience my good sooner than later and siding with the Omnipotence of Law I shouldn’t have to wait for my inheritance. Yet I have experienced scarcity for too long and enough now to not even be able to pay for the workshops that you offer. What I can do or whom can I approach to help me remove the self-imposed obstacles to the Presence of Only Good in my life?

You are onto your pattern and your sincerity is strong. You are tired of not having what you want, and the contrast is stimulating you to ask for and receive what you want. Your intention will empower you and draw unto you the help you request.

You may be up to the most important step of your life, and it is only 18 inches ― the shift of residence from your head to your heart. The head without the heart is tyrannical. The heart without the head is chaotic. The marriage of the two is divine alchemy.

Keep focusing on your deservingness to have what you want and have it now. In your case, too much patience will not serve. God has promised you all you want; now it’s your turn to let it in. Each day pray and visualize the abundant life you seek. Then activate your prayers by acknowledging and celebrating the riches you already own. God cannot resist giving more to an appreciative heart.

Am I Being Teased?

I was recently offered what seemed a dream job clear across the country. I had to turn it down because I just couldn't afford the expenses involved in moving my family out there with the relo they offered. The job looked fantastic, the people out there were fantastic, the geographic area looked fantastic, but I just couldn't swing the finances. Now, I'm in a funk I can't shake - depressed and unmotivated in my current job now that I've seen what could have been. It's a tease similar to what happens when I read your books on how life CAN be and I just can't make it happen that way in my own life. I guess my question is how many times do I have to see how things could be better without getting the chance to have them better? How many times can this life lesson be thrust upon me? I just want to scream "I GET IT, GOD! NOW SHOW ME HOW TO FINANCE IT BECAUSE I'M LIVING ON THE EDGE OF CREDIT IN MY BUDGET AND HAVE KIDS THAT WANT TO GO TO COLLEGE!" Wow, I'm getting cranky, huh? HELP!

Every experience underscores and teaches what is IT for you, and what is NOT IT. Consider all the ITS you recognized about this job: great job, people, geographic region, etc. How powerful that you know what you want and you recognize it when it shows up. Obviously the current job you are in is really a NOT IT since you are depressed and unmotivated there. You are a passionate deliberate creator who knows what you want and you have strong feelings about it. That is working in your favor a lot more than you know.

Whenever you are ripe and ready for what is next for you to manifest (Abraham teaches) the universe can deliver it through any one of 20,000 doors. Even if you missed the most recent opportunity (are you sure you can't rethink it?) there will be another one, and another, until you make choices you are satisfied with. So rather than complaining that the universe is teasing you (an interpretation more than a fact), how about reframing so you see the universe as giving you lots of practice to know what you want and build the spiritual muscles to ask for it and create it? (When you are learning to ride a bike, and you sometimes stay balanced and sometimes fall, do you complain that the successes were teasing you? Not at all. The successes, or near successes were inspiring you to keep going until you had it all.)

How long and how many times? Until you are ready. That could be now. The last experience really amped up some energy for you. Now make it work on your behalf. Maybe a leap of faith is required. Or just faith, period. You may be closer than you know.

How to Overcome Fear in the Face of Success

I have finally reached the stage of my book publishing where I am officially a self publisher. Once I got the paper work from the publisher, I nearly freaked out and began to breath shallow. After all this time of wondering what I wanted in life, it has finally arrived! I became panicky and happy at the same time. What would you recommend to keep me centered? Right now, I am breathing steadily and sometimes saying little prayers to keep me focused. I used to be a major saboteur of things in my life. When I began to open up to the good and abundance of the universe, I got scared when the good began to come starting with a trickle to a slow flow and I know that the flow will get even bigger.

When you are ready to take a big new step, you are usually greeted with both excitement and fear. "Whenever I step forward to embrace a big new 'Yes!' all of my old 'No's' come back to greet me." This means that you are really making progress, so don't stop now.

Your breathing and prayers are a very good idea. They have to help, and will.

When you face anxiety about letting more good in, remember two things: why you want it and why you deserve it. Then act as if. Go ahead and keep walking through your fears as if they are the voice of a deluded person who doesn't recognize you or your dreams or your purpose. Imagine they are clouds or mist, and on the other side is the sun. Yes, acknowledge that you feel the fear, but no, don't sit down to tea with it.

You will find that as you let more and more good into your life in little steps, your level of joy will increase gradually so that one day you will notice that the floor you are now standing on used to be your ceiling.

"The better it gets, the better it gets."

Why Have I Been Penalized?

Having worked for the British Post Office/Romec for over 21 years I am really disheartened to hear that Post Office Counters have received the bonus and Romec, which is 51% owned by the PO haven't. Why has this been allowed to happen ? May I point out that we still receive Xmas stamps and courier and also have the same redunchy package and drive vans that leased by Royal Mail I am still on the same contract so why am I being penalized?

It can be frustrating to see other people receiving benefits you know you deserve.

You have several options here. You can work with action and attitude -- preferably a combination of both.

Do you have a grievance or mediation process in your company that allows you to express your dissatisfaction with the current policy? If so, pursue that course.

Before you do, however, I suggest that you clear your mind and heart and find a place of peace inside you, regardless of what is happening in the company. If you approach the situation with anger or upset, you will minimize your chances of success. If you can find a sense of well-being no matter what the company does, you will be extremely powerful in your request.

This may be a good opportunity to look at similar situations in your life where you feel you have been treated unfairly or others are getting benefits you deserve. Does this come up in other forms, such as family, friendship, or relationship? If so, you can practice stepping into your power and knowing you deserve all the wealth and good things your heart desires. Then you will be in a perfect position to get them, not by simply demanding them, but asking for them with wholeness and confidence. Remember that Spirit is your source, not a company, and you will be amazed at the ways Spirit can provide for you.

Worthy of a Better Job?

I have had periods off and on in my life when money came fairly easily and then periods where it has been very tight and I had way more bills than I had money. I have been divorced for 15 years and my youngest child got married and moved out about 4 years ago. I got a Masters Degree in Psychology to be able to support myself better. I am still an Intern and work for a non-profit agency that is having financial problems and have changed the way they pay us and my spousal support ended last July. In the meantime I can't seem to find a better job and am getting further and further in debt. I have been doing treatment and having others do treatment for me and what has always worked for me is not working for me now. I need to know how I can turn this around and manifest a greater idea of being supported and an idea that I am worthy of the being supported well and that there is no such thing as lack in my life or in my consciousness. I have tried most everything I know how to do but feet I am blocked in some way. Help!!!

It can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you feel stuck in a rut. Yet, with just a little effort - far less than you would imagine - you can begin to turn the cycle around.

Begin by recognizing that money flows in cycles. We all have times when the money comes in, and the money goes out. It's part of a grand design based on circulation, moving energy. Recently you have invested time, energy, and money to develop your career. That was a very wise move that will pay off over time. Remember the big picture, and congratulate yourself for investing in yourself.

Next, consider the ending of your spousal support as a springboard to manifest your power to be self-generating. You have many gifts and talents that can and will draw support to you, financially, emotionally, and spiritually.

Finally, here is a great opportunity for you to tune in to where your passion truly lives, and how you might express it. Do you feel fulfilled in your current position? Is there more honesty and aliveness you can bring to it by expressing yourself more authentically? Is there another position for which you have more passion and vision? There is a strong correlation between passion and success. I wish everyone who reads this will feel this on a very deep level. The more you are true to where your life force lives, the more the universe will bring to you opportunities to thrive. So view this time a gift from the universe, inviting you to be more and more of you, so you can prosper on all levels.

How to Overcome Scarcity Mentality?

I am tremendously grateful for all you've contributed to the world of personal and spiritual growth. I find your observations profound and uplifting. I feel however, currently stuck in my life. I am 35, out of work and haven't achieved what I want financially or relationship wise. My question is: how do I overcome a scarcity mentality when all I feel in my life is lack right now? I feel like my life is on hold until I can start making money again, get a bigger place, and start feeling better about myself. Only then, do I feel worthy to pursue a relationship again. I'm just stuck and I feel like my time is running out! I know I am looking outside of myself to try and feel better but all the "inner" work I've done doesn't seem to bring me peace, nor has it helped me to manifest much abundance in my life. Do I need a new approach? Help! The clock is ticking. I appreciate any help you could offer. Thank you.

Reframe your position so you start to see opportunities rather than dead ends. There is much more than you know that is available to you right where you are. Being out of a job temporarily could be a tremendous opportunity to get to know yourself, delve into your inner truth and passion, and take steps to create a career based on something you would love. The trick is to shift your focus. Consciously cultivate thoughts that leave you feeling good. The universe is infinitely abundant, a veritable feast inviting you to partake! Don’t wait until you are financially more prosperous to create a relationship. One thing has nothing to do with the other. Why wait to love? Time is not running out. You have perfectly enough time to do what you need to do, and you will. This period is helping you dig deeper into yourself, ask more profound questions, and get good answers.

I Want my Employers to Value Me

I am a health care provider who works for several different physicians- I receive a good hourly rate but no benefits- I work in a rural environment and serve many needy people. I'm thinking about applying to a health care center so I can receive benefits - It will be in the same environment. I'm conflicted because I'm doing it for selfish motivations- I'm 5l years old and want to have a decent retirement fund plus I want to be compensated for my services in a monetary way because I feel like a commodity with a few of my current employers- I know I should find validation within myself and not from the outside but, hey, I was inundated with these capitalist notions since I was born. I want my employers to value me- I do get a lot of validation from my patients and I would feel badly in giving them up but I would also be helping new patients. Thank you for listening. I enjoy your literature immensely.

I don't think it is too selfish at all to take care of your needs. You have given much in the position you have been in, and you will give where you go. I believe that your guidance is coming from your inner spirit, and so you cannot lose. Move ahead with dignity and confidence, knowing that the same Spirit that gave you the guidance will take care of you and keep guiding you at every turn. I'm sure your patients love you. Now you get to love you, too. Best and blessings, Alan

I Forgot to Take Care of Myself

My dilemma has been used by a few self help groups in my area, but no answers have ever been given. I am 68 years old worked for many companies large and small. Had 4 kids a couple of big houses, 3 in college, cars, etc. BUT I forgot to take care of myself. I thought I could work forever. Now I need a couple of orthopedic operations, divorced (wife walked out) , live with a friend who helps me through some simple dollar situations mostly rent. The rest comes from Social security. I look forward to some income from working a few days a week when I become healthy. I am computer savvy. My debts are such that I can make if I work for a couple of years. Because I did not take care of myself I only have 14,000 in IRA's. My advice to others is to take care of yourself as well as your family so you are not in my position. If I did not have my friend I would be lost

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The good news is that you do have a friend, and you are not lost. I think it is a blessing that you are being taken care of. That's the beautiful thing about Higher Power. Even if we perceive that we have made mistakes, the power of grace helps us out anyway. This is a powerful time for you to go inward and connect with your spiritual being. You have worked hard for a long time, raised a family, and now you have a great opportunity to get to know yourself again. Everything else is behind you, and your life is at a new beginning. And thanks for the advice for all of us to take care of ourselves as we go. It's so important to keep our heart alive and our joy in motion as we live. And there are lessons and opportunities at every turn. Bless you for your spiritual growth and your sharing.

Partner’s Money Struggles Spill Over

I'm in the prosperity program w/you and am finding it to be so helpful in supporting my attitudes about money. Most of the time I am able to see prosperity and money in particular as an energy exchange. However, right now I'm in a challenge w/it. Specifically my partner is having some struggles with money and attitudes about it.....lo' and behold! I have found myself in a 'worry mode' with money now - I know codependent right? How can I shift out again?

It sounds like you've tapped into your partner's worries about money. This is easy to do when you are close to someone in a relationship. Your lesson at the moment may not be so much about prosperity, as it may be about defining your space so you maintain the positive attitude about finance that you choose rather than another one you accept by default. The truth (that you are indeed a prosperous being living in a prosperous universe) is more powerful than illusions (that we are lackful). So here you have a great chance to be a "sovereign creator" and maintain your own chosen economy in the face of your partner's anxious thoughts. As you do this, you will likely lift your partner to higher knowing.

Feeling Doubtful and Insecure

I recently read your book Why Your Life Sucks and What You Can Do About It and it has wonderful and refreshing insights. Certainly, I have gained from its wisdom. However, I am still finding it difficult to apply to my life in my recent circumstances. At age 62 and with 11 years with one company I was terminated as a result of reorganization (welcome the "new guard" - less pay you know), and now am seeking new means of employment. Problems keep being evidenced -namely overqualified, too old (easy to spot), "you made what salary?", and so on. I am a specialist with advanced degrees in geriatrics, and one would think with the age trends of today this would be of worth. However, this doesn't seem to be the case. It is hard to hold fast while hearing continued " so sorry". I know a consulting firm would go -especially with large organization's employee needs as well as marketing realities, but quite honestly I am too scared, doubtful, insecure, whatever, on-&-on to take the chance. It would help to see income as well. After 37 years in the field it is apparent I should have taken a different path. I know to dwell on the past is non-productive, but my memories haunt me just the same. Your thoughts are welcome - certainly mine seem to be going no where. Thanks.

There is a lot you can do with this, for you have a tremendous amount of control over how you are holding the situation, which makes a big difference in the results you get. Often the termination of a job is a rude awakening. Take care that you do not stop on the “rude” before you get to the “awakening,” for it is surely there. Remember that what is happening in the outside world is always a reflection of what is happening in your inner world. As you shift your thoughts, attitudes, and expectations, the circumstances around you will shift to match them. You may not be able to control the folks who tell you “I’m sorry,” but you can directly deal with the fear, doubt, and insecurity you describe. I am quite certain that as you practice using this experience to reclaim your self-confidence – that is surely there – you will find a situation that matches your intentions. Sit down and have a heart-to-heart with yourself and map out what your ideal career scenario would look like. Pay no attention to the negative thoughts you have heard from others and told yourself. Just stay focused on what you would like to create if you could have it all. Go into as much detail as you can about the situation and how you would like to feel about it. Revisit this vision every day as much as possible. Don’t spend one more moment “shoulding” on yourself for having taken the wrong path. That is not so, and such thinking will get you nowhere. You are young enough to do whatever you choose. In other cultures, people are respected more as they grow on in years. The higher the number of one’s age, the more honor people are given. Our culture is obsessed with youth at the expense of appreciation for experience and wisdom. Yet there are people and companies who will value your maturity and strengths. As you come to value them more yourself, you will become a match to your goal, and the Law of Attraction will accomplish the connection.

A Gift of Time

I have all your books and I learned a lot from them. In spite of it I am very confused right now what direction to pursue. My husband of 32 years now 54, was diagnosed with leukemia Dec 03, thank G-d he is feeling fine now. His employer of 18 years , where he is vice president of manufacturing ,and basically running the place, being promoted since started from maintenance mgr to director of mfg and then to VP of mfg. suddenly find all bad things about him, including his performance, which are not true. Also they gave him already 2 notices to build their case which are not based on truth. To contradict it they gave him 2nd biggest bonus in 18 years of employment. I have very strong feeling they want to let him go until he is feeling OK, of course they would not admit that. What would be the best action that you would recommend?

Perhaps the universe is trying to help your husband have some time to take care of himself. A diagnosis such as you describe can be a wake up call for you husband to think about what he doing with his life, and what would make it even more worthwhile. He might do well to step back temporarily and get in touch with himself and make some choices from a source of joy rather than just keep working as he has been.

Your husband (together with you) would do well to consider what his ideal day, week, month, and year would look like. Does he enjoy his job? Does he find joy and fulfillment there? Is there anything else he would rather be doing? What would make his life really worthwhile? If he already enjoys his work, he is in his right place and would do well to simply carry on. If not, ask him to consider what he would most like to do.

Honest communication with his employer would be in order here. It sounds like his company is giving him mixed messages. He might sit down and have a heart-to-heart with his employer and find out what everyone wants to do next.

Reframe this entire situation as a gift, blessing, and opportunity for your husband and you to make your life even better.

I Don’t Believe in What I am Asked to Do

My job as a federal employee is generally pretty good except I am now supposedly responsible for getting my own work. I am supposed to maintain contact w/past and present clients and inform potential clients of our services. The group I work in is gov't, but is run like a consulting firm. Problem is, I don't believe in telemarketing others because I wouldn't want them telemarketing me. If I don't do this the boss makes vague threats such as "You have one year." Any suggestions on how I can either (a) get a different job or (b) stop hating telemarketing so much and just detach from doing it or (c) refuse to do it any longer and live with the consequences (getting a lawyer, going to the appeals board for supposedly not doing my job, etc.) This marketing requirement was not mentioned when I was hired in to my current position--it came about later.

Good question – especially because you are already aware of your options! You are closer to handling this than you know. The easiest route from where you now sit is to reframe what you have been asked to do, a la shifting your attitude about the calls you have been asked to make. No one likes telemarketers, but everyone likes someone who can help them get what they want. A possible reframe might be to view yourself as offering your potential clients a service they will value. You are helping their life get easier, and they will be willing to pay you and your firm for the service. Your calls are not intended to bother people; you will be making person-to-person connections that will be spiritually, professionally, and economically rewarding to everyone involved. In this scenario, no one is the bad guy – neither you nor your boss, and the folks you call are not victims. Doesn’t this approach feel a lot better and more feasible? I would set out on this tack, and if you can step into it with a peaceful heart, you will probably get good results. If for any reason it does not come off, you may seek another position. The important thing is that you can be in integrity with what you are doing. Success flows when you feel in harmony with yourself. If you are not a match to this job or boss, you can be sure there is a position that is a match to you and your vision and intentions. You can trust the Law of Attraction to sort out the details. I’ve seen situations like this go either way, but one thing is for sure – as you line yourself up with your spirit and allow peace and higher power to be your partners, you will be in your right place and everyone will win. Whatever you do, let it be easy.

Took a Leap of Faith and Crashed

What advice do you have for folks who have taken a "leap of faith" -- and crashed. My partner and I sold a successful retail business to pursue our dream of writing. Ten years of retail had taken a toll, both physically and emotionally, and no longer felt fulfilling. We asked the Universe to send us a buyer when the time was right. Six months later, a sales rep said, "If you ever want to sell this store, let me know." Six months after that, we negotiated a sale. We then put our time and energy into writing. We felt blessed and expressed our gratitude and appreciation daily. We've had some success in reputable writing competitions and good feedback from other sources, but no sales. I had to return to retail work three and a half years ago. As more time passes, I have less and less time/energy to pursue a dream. I never wanted to have my life be about doing something just for the money - and I never believed it had to be that way - but that's the way it has turned out. I still practice affirmations and positive thinking and apply the principles to my daily life. My favorite is: "The same Source that gave you the idea will give you the means to see it through." I embrace that concept. But affirmations and positive thinking do not pay the bills. I deeply regret selling the business. I've often thought about the idea of "not knowing what you had until it's gone." I went from being my own boss to working for a corporation that only pretends to care about people. I am discouraged to be fifty years old, wearing an apron and a name tag, and getting the feeling that I've only been deluding myself that I can have something better. How did this go so terribly wrong?

Nothing went terribly wrong. Everything has gone perfectly right. Your interpretation tells you that you screwed up and your life is a mess. Is that interpretation based on love, wisdom, and abundance? Or fear and lack? You can tell by how it leaves you feeling. Not so good, it sounds. I congratulate you for taking your leap of faith. There are many people who have not had the blessing of doing such (but they will). Your sale was wise and courageous. The fact that someone came along and offered to purchase your store was a manifestation of your intention. Please own the power of your intention to create that sale, and the same power will move you to your next level. you're also confusing your success in writing, with the income you have not received for it. Of course it would be wonderful to make money from writing, and I support you to do so. But why judge your experience as a failure because you have yet to receive a check? Van Gogh sold one painting during his lifetime for a pittance, and now they sell for hundreds of millions of dollars each. I am by no means saying that you have to wait until you die to get rich and famous; I am just saying that immediate sales (or lack thereof) are no indication of talent or worth. It’s not terrible that you’ve gone back to work for a corporation while you are still cultivating your writing career. The corporation may not care about people, but you can deliver tremendous personal care within your sphere of influence. You have the power to create your own reality with the people you work with. Who knows, maybe you will build a good relationship with one of your corporate colleagues, which will lead to a huge advance in your writing career? Harrison Ford was working as a carpenter on a movie set when he went for an audition for Star Wars. . . . Going into “I don’t know what I had till it was gone” won't help. Yes, we learn from contrast, but your experience has only strengthened you. Everything serves – what you did in your retail store; your leaving it; what you are up to now. Rather than rue your perceived error, you can celebrate that every step of your journey has been valuable and worthwhile, and you now stand on the precipice of vast uncharted territory? Your life isn’t over. It’s just beginning.

Partner Says I Talk to Much

I just need a bit of encouragement. I have started my own business and I am passionate about it but I don't seem to be doing as well as I thought I would. I also have a few issues with my partner, I require intimacy however, he says that I am too in his face and ask too many questions and talk too much (I do talk too much). I desire to become financially independent for my sake and my children’s and live the life I dream of, could you help?

Let’s look at the positives here: 1.You have started your own business – that is a noble achievement indeed. Many people would like to do that, and you have. So you must be a good manifestor. 2. You desire to be financially independent for your sake and your children’s, and to live your dream. Wow! Now there is a powerful dream. I would keep that foremost in my mind and heart every day. God just loves to bring dreams like that to life. 3. You have a business partner who is honest and wants to co-create success with you. 4. You have a spiritual orientation, which I assume since you are familiar with my material. 5. You are willing to ask for help, and you are. Whatever else happens, you already have many elements of success going for you. Now for a few further comments: Give your business some time to grow. Many people have initial challenges, or the business does not take off as fast as they hoped. Good businesses take time to gain some steam. Build relationships with your clients and keep joy and service at the top of your priority list. (I also recommend you read my book Mr. Everit’s Secret – it’s all about everything you are asking about.) Regarding your partner’s comment (and your agreement) that you talk too much and you are too much in his face – (I am assuming that he is your business partner and not your relationship partner, which would put an entirely different spin on my answer). Here’s a little secret about most men: they have about as much emotional processing as they can stand at home with their wife or girlfriend. When a guy goes to work, he wants to do just that. It is not a time or arena for lots of talking about emotional issues. Men are goal-oriented; they take joy in getting the job done, and for most men, intimacy is not something they are seeking at the workplace. Women enjoy and get a lot more mileage out of talking out their feelings and their process. I would suggest, for the sake of your relationship with your partner and the success of your work, that you create other healthy venues to meet your intimacy needs. You can do this with a relationship partner; women friends; journaling; spiritual group; prayer; etc. If you need to talk to him about your feelings regarding your business or relationship with him, keep them to the point and stay results-oriented. The more harmony you create with him, the more you maximize your business results. I have a feeling that if you and your business partner can feel relaxed and aligned with each other in the workplace, your business will take off

How Much of an Object is Money?

I sincerely enjoyed your presentations at the Celebrate Your Life Conference. However, I walked away from the conference disturbed because I could not answer your question : "If money was no object, what would you be doing?" For months, I've thought about that question and wondered why I didn't seem to have an answer. Finally, the other night, I did some reading and meditating and I found my answer. I would love to run a small ranch where I would take in foster children and rescue animals. The animals and children would be very therapeutic for each other and I have enough love to give them all. However, since answering this question, I've only become more frustrated. Unfortunately, money IS an object. I'm barely making my current mortgage and bills. I'm a single women without the formal education to write a convincing business plan and get financing. I don't have legal advise, property, fund raisers, investors etc. It all seems so impossible. I know you say that confusion is the doorway to knowledge (or something very similar). Please help. I'm REALLY confused.

Your vision is a great one; I can feel the passion and joy that motivates you to do this. What a great service this place would provide! You have become more focused on the obstacles than the possibilities. Whatever you pay attention to, grows and seems like reality. The moment you shift your attention, the new object of your focus takes on greater reality. Start talking to people who have done something like what you would like to do. Visit facilities. Get excited about why you want to do it. Quit thinking about the "how," and stay more with the "what." As you stay on track with your passion, you will be amazed at how the universe shows up to help you with the details. Get together with other people who share your vision, or parts of it. They may have access to resources you cannot see at the moment. If you can conceive it, you can achieve it.

Self-Worth Hangs on Goal

I have been working toward a goal for the past two years. Only recently did I find out that I didn't achieve what I had been working so hard for. I feel so broken and I don't know how to pick myself up. I think I associate a lot of my self worth in the achievement of this goal, which is why I believe I am dealing with the loss so poorly. Life is sort of hard now and I'd appreciate any advice.

It's interesting how the answer is usually contained in the question! The reason this has happened is to help you recognize that your self-worth does not depend on your ideas of success or failure in the external world. You are whole, perfect, intact, and completely successful at every moment of your life. Even if you never achieved one more of your personality-chosen goals, you could be in ecstasy and continual celebration. While getting what we want in commerce or society is rewarding, sometimes there is a deeper lesson in not getting it. Because you are a spiritual being by nature, what happens to your spirit is more important than anything else. If you can learn to love and value yourself for who you are rather than what you do, you have attained the greatest goal of all. Your success may just be a matter of timing. The thing you wanted may still come about in another time in another way through another avenue. When it does, it will be guided by Spirit rather than the human mind, and your sense of satisfaction will far exceed what you created when you made the rules rather than God.